So you’ve been hooking up with the same guy or girl all semester, nothing official, but now it’s Christmas break and you left things on a semi-awkward note.
Maybe you hooked up one last time before break, maybe you didn’t even say goodbye, but either way, you’re apart from your HUB (hookup buddy) and you’re not so sure how you feel about it.
There are a ton of things going through your head right now, so let’s address the most pressing issues to ease that sinking feeling in your stomach.
1. You’re paranoid he/she is hooking up with someone else at home.
Since the two of you are not established, technically he/she is free to do whatever for the month of break, but then again, so are you.
It is completely possible that you are both feeling the same way, but neither one of you wants to be the first to say it.
How to Deal:
Instead of trying to ward off feelings of paranoia, try sending him/her a text and let em’ know they’re on your mind.
You don’t have to be dramatic, but a simple text every couple of days (or everyday if you are so inclined) is enough to let your HUB know that you haven’t forgotten about him/her and hopefully the feeling is mutual.
2. You think things will be awkward after break.
This can only happen if you let it happen. If you spend the entire winter break not talking to him/her, YES, it will be awkward when you go back to school, NO, he/she won’t want to hang out again, and YES, you blew your chance with the person you like (or like hooking up with).
How to Deal:
As long as you make the effort (whether this means texting regularly, calling a few times, or trying to meet up at a party), he/she will get the picture; you are still interested, and you are not going away.
Make sure to talk about meeting up when it gets closer to the time you head back for classes so he/she will expect to see you. Don’t wait three weeks into the semester to finally text him/her because by that point, too much time will have passed and so has your opportunity.
3. You are scared things will be over after break is through.
Are you wondering how far this hookup is actually going to last? Think that time apart will make him/her realize how much they DON’T actually miss you?
I wouldn’t be so quick to jump to any of these conclusions because there is a reason you two have been hooking up for as long as you have been; you obviously find each other attractive and you like each other (to some varying degree).
How to Deal:
Again, the best thing to do in this situation is to keep the flame alive by feeding the fire. Sending texts, calling, or meeting up is a sure way of letting him/her know how you feel and it will be harder to cut things off if you put in the effort.
While you cannot control what your HUB is going to do after break is over, you can control what you do and say to him/her.
You may not want to go this route, but if you care this much about your HUB, why not tell them? Maybe you are feeling this way because you have genuine feelings for him/her and the time apart is not helping at all.
Don’t wait for a drunken, tear-filled call at 2am the day after Christmas to tell him/her how you feel; get it off your chest when you are thinking clearly and can express yourself in a concise manner. There is nothing worse than getting that phone call in the middle of the night when you are tired, sober, and not in the mood to deal with someone’s late-night confessions.
You will be more respected if you attempt to have an adult conversation with your HUB and things may go over exactly as you want them to because of the way you chose to handle it.